Giving a Eulogy
It's been said that one of people's biggest fears is public speaking. Add to that the stress of grief, and it becomes clear that giving a eulogy can be very difficult for some people. The Ontario Funeral Service Association offers the following tips for keeping your composure while accomplishing an emotional task. Remember:
- The funeral is for those grieving.
- Use the deceased's name.
- Speak about the unique qualities of that person; you may include family history, important career or personal highlights, etc.
- Keep your eulogy brief enough to say what you need to say and to ease the pain of those present; no need to talk for any great length of time.
- You can use different forms of technology (computer, music, video, etc.)
- It's okay to use humour (but keep it appropriate!) - people enjoy hearing about the anecdotes that are part of our lives.
- Be sincere.
- Consult with family and clergy to determine their desires and any possible restrictions in the service itself.
- If you become upset when giving a eulogy, take a moment to compose yourself; everyone will understand.
- If you feel you are simply not up to speaking, it's okay to ask the clergy or another person to read it for you